Empower your Day in Just Seconds
Grantley Morris
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Dashed hopes especially when repeated a few times can be so agonizing that it is not unusual to consciously or unconsciously decide that rather than risk another bitter episode it is better to crush all hope. Usually, the easiest way to do this is by continually thinking lowly of ourselves. Sometimes we can intensify this to loathing or despising ourselves. I might, for example, think it better to think Ill never achieve anything than risk expecting to achieve and then suffer the pain of dashed hope. Some people do such things as overeat, dress drably or neglect personal hygiene to kill hope. By having good reason to expect to be rejected, they are not caught off guard or bitterly disappointed when rejection comes. Others engage in the same behavior to repel people because they fear attracting an abuser or fear commitment. Like someone who chooses to live alone in a cave rather than risk being hit by lightning, such behavior is often an attempt to protect oneself from what are essentially the minor risks of life. To those protecting themselves this way, however, the risks seem very likely and terrifying dangers. Considering how unlikely it is for such things to devastate people, their view is statistically distorted, but it is usually statistically significant in terms of how often such things occurred in these peoples own experience. To honor God and enjoy life in all its richness, these people need to learn to trust again. Taken from Cure for Self-Hate Love others! May be freely copied. Just include this notice: © Grantley Morris, www.net-burst.com
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