Thank you for your extremely helpful insights on men. I am married to the original strong, silent type, and have experienced years of non-communication in our marriage. It has been extremely hurtful at times, but I wish I had known before what I have now learned. I do love my husband and I am now able to accept that he is not being uncaring as I previously thought. It is a great relief to understand and be at peace about our situation.
Now that we have both retired from work, we are obviously spending a great deal more time together, and I am having to come to terms with how we get on. I found your insights very relevant. Having a Dad who was a real chatterbox meant I didnt have a clue with regard to men like my husband.
It amazes me that someone has not written a book pointing out the differences between the way women think and interpret relationships and the way men do. I have read the book Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus but your webpage has been far more helpful and deepened my understanding far more.
Thank you for such an insightful article! It has helped me to understand my partner. At first, I thought that he was being aloof, so I would let moments of silence linger, waiting for him to talk (I am a public speaker). When he does speak, what he says is so profound and means more to me than hours of idle chatter. Since I have been taking the time to listen, he has opened up more to me than I ever had expected. It made me learn, too, that it is important not to jump in and ruin the opportunity to share in my partners deepest thoughts. It has become a wonderful bonding for us. Your article put everything into perspective for me, as I was first confused by him not being as talkative as I. Now, when I am with a man who talks over the top of me, I appreciate my partner that much more!
It has become a wonderful bonding for us, writes Whitney: