A Readers Response
I found your website today in my struggle to forgive my husband. I have only read a couple of titles so far but plan on reading it all. It is very powerful and I can feel the healing process begin as I read the words and follow the Word of God. I find myself thirsty for more of this wisdom. I realize now that my pain has been a path to God and I can embrace my experiences in a much more healthy manner. Your website is literally a Godsend!
Yesterday I read your webpage Sweet Revenge! It was like you knew my life and all the private and personal things my husband did to me. It was unbearable to read at times so I would quit for a while and return to it later. It is so helpful to me right now. Everything you write makes so much sense.
I prayed a deep prayer and am working very hard on forgiveness. I must say, it is very difficult when I am still living with him and there is new betrayal, and hurtful remarks daily. But I will not give up! It also helps that I educated myself on sociopaths, as that is my husbands personality disorder.
I have spent the day replacing my anger and feelings of disgust for positive and forgiving feelings and I must say, I do feel better today.
I am looking at what good has come from all of the injustice. I am not the same person that I was when I married six years ago. I am stronger, wiser, and much closer to my God. My husbands goal was to tear me down, and for a while he was winning but I sought out God and have survived and now I feel hope again. My husbands evilness has definitely made me a better person. I guess I win!!!
I have just read what you have written about self-forgiveness. It is so true. I had never thought about it like that and am wondering if that has been part of my struggle to forgive my husband. You see, I knew God did not want me to marry him and I did it anyway. My husband was so charming in the two years that we dated. Almost too perfect. Oh, there were definitely warning signs but I refused to focus on them. I knew nothing about his shady past, addiction and personality disorders. Sociopaths are very cunning, charming and manipulative. I was his perfect victim.
Well guess what? After reading about self-forgiveness I am moving on from blaming myself. It is self-destructive. God promised to forgive me and so I forgive myself for my selfishly not listening to him. It made it easy to do after reading what you wrote about forgiveness and how much God loves me. My focus will be on those two things today. It is sure to be a beautiful day!!!!
Her first email (about other webpages on this site):
A couple of days later:
After a couple more days, she wrote again:
Top Priority Reading
* There is just one healthy way to play the blame game. For compassionate insight, see Serious, Do-It-Yourself Healing of Inner Pain, Anger or Distress from Trauma, Bereavement, Divorce, Breakup, Abuse, Tragedy, Etc and the pages it leads to.
* For further help with emotional pain and insight into why God does not prevent sin and the suffering it causes, read If anyone has reason to hate God, its Sue and the valuable links at the end of that page, such as Where was God when you suffered unspeakable horrors? and Why I hate the myth of a cruel Christian God.
* For help in forgiving the unforgivable, see Lord, Make Him Regret What He Did to Me!
* Christians & Raw Emotions: Hate & Anger at Injustice. Do offenders really get away with it?
* Christian Revenge and the Wrath of God: see Divine Vengeance Against Those Who Hurt You.
* Justice: So Important to the God of Love, see Love your Enemy and Heap Burning Coals on his Head!
* God Isnt fair? How could God be fair when some get an abundance and some get a raw deal?
* To Forgive is Divine. Why it is essential for our own salvation to forgive others.
* The Abuse Survivors Ultimate Revenge. Reclaiming your Sexuality.
Warning: This website is H-U-G-E! Virtual Library
Id love to hear from you! revenge@net-burst.com
Not to be sold. © Copyright 2009, Grantley Morris. May be freely copied in whole or in part provided: it is not altered; this entire paragraph is included; readers are not charged; if used in a webpage, the new page is significantly different to this one. Many more compassionate, inspiring, sometimes hilarious writings available free online at www.net-burst.com Freely you have received, freely give.
For use outside these limits, consult the author.